Finding the Positives in a Tough Situation

Things to RememberThe internet brings many things to the victim of bullying. Many will say it has several negative parts, such as cyberbullying and online harassment. But there is a side that has been a saving grace to a victim of bullying.

I am referring to the Positive Affirmation sites that are out there. Besides the two biggest things you can do to yourself if you are feeling bad due to bullying, which is to exercise (due to the release of both stress and endorphinens) and eating a good balanced diet (your brain is fed as well as your body), working to change the negatives in your mind to find peace and positivity is a strong helper as well.

Personally, I find that sites like Tiny Buddha and Lessons Learned In Life as well as the app you can get for meditation called “CALM” are all extremely helpful for me. Let me be clear that none of those sites or apps pay me. I just found that they help me so much. For example, here was an excellent quote on Lessons Learned in Life.

One of the most courageous decisions you will ever make is to finally let go of whatever is hurting your heart and soul.

~Brigitte Nicole

Another one I like from there is:

Understand your absolute importance. Press that send button. Say how you feel. If you don’t say it now, you never will. Do not sneer at happiness or roll your eyes at sadness. Be aware that apathy is not healthy. That pit in your stomach when they don’t call or text you back, it shouldn’t be there. No one should be able to control you like that. It will get better, but it will never be perfect. The trick is to learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface. Please, please, take care of yourself. You are everything to somebody. You are everything to yourself. That alone is enough. That alone is everything!

These are just two. You can subscribe and have them send messages each day to help you. The CALM app has 2, 5, and 10 minute meditations that help your mind think positively. I share because it works for me and the CALM app was actually featured on the TODAY show the other week. Sometimes it just takes the effort of finding some time for positive thinking. We all have peaks and valley’s in life and it’s when we are in our valleys that we need some positive thinking to help us climb back up.

I hope that you find things that help comfort you and help you think more positively through the hard times. If you do have other places you visit on the web or other apps to share, please do in your comments to this post. I would love to hear what others use to find comfort at the hard times.

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About Alan Eisenberg

Alan Eisenberg is a Certified Life Coach, Bullying Recovery activist and author of "A Ladder In The Dark: My journey from bullying to self-acceptance" and "Crossing the Line". He has been writing and speaking to various audiences about the issue of C-PTSD and Bullying Recovery. Mr. Eisenberg has been featured on several print, radio shows and podcasts on this issue, including NPR and in the Boston Globe. He is currently working toward his Master's Degree in Mental Health Counseling.
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