I started my company, Bullying Recovery, in order to really try to make a difference in the way that our population handles the issue of psychological damage, due to bullying. Why do I do this? Because as the saying “Physician Heal Thyself” goes, I had to also go through my own trials and tribulations to get over bullying that happened to me as a child. I went through this almost 30+ years before I realized I needed help.
So, I created Bullying Recovery, LLC and wrote my first book, “A Ladder In The Dark”, a memoir about what happened to me as a child and how I grew to have the long-term effects, now known as Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). I also learned some other aspects about myself, such as I have a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) personality, and an issue with Displaced Aggression.
I am not afraid any longer to admit these things and share them with you. I think it’s important that you take the journey to discover who you are, why you react as you do, and admit that these things happened to you and move forward. On the issue of bullying, I feel that too many young people or even adults do not have the tools to learn these things and many of the people working with them don’t know how to handle these issues to help lead a bullying survivor or even a bully to get the help they need as early as possible to overcome the psychological damage that they have suffered.
As part of my company’s mission, I am writing another novel, this time fiction, about the ultimate price we pay for teen bullying abuse. My new book, called “Crossing the Line” will follow four characters through their stories of being bullied, being a bully, and making what is the ultimate sacrifices on the issue of bullying, suicide and weapon use. I believe this book will take an honest look at what we are reading about every day.
Statistics on bullying and suicide are sobering. Here are the statistics from the Bullying Statistics website*.
Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
10 to 14-year-old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above
According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying.*
But that is just one part of the story. The other is school age kids that bring a weapon to school. I also know this from fact and wrote about my own reason for doing this due to bullying in my memoir. But, again, I don’t want you to think that this is not a real issue. Researchers at the Center for Disease Control* researched the issue and found the following.
High schoolers who are bullied, be it with physical assault, taunting or damage to their personal belongings, are up to 31 times more likely to bring weapons — like a gun or knife — to school than kids who are not bullied.
High schoolers who were bullied tended to be female, white, and performed worse in school — 8.6% were likely to bring weapons to school compared to 4.6% who were not. But the most dramatic increases were seen among students who experienced more than one kind of intimidation. Up to 28% of students experiencing one risk factor brought a weapon to school, and 62% of kids experiencing three risk factors brought a weapon to campus.*
So as I prepare to complete my second book about both the issue of suicide and weapon violence due to bullying, I need your help. I am working with a new publisher that uses Crowd-Voting to decide whether to offer a publishing contract to a writer. I need to get 5,000 votes in order to get the book to publishing. So I need your vote and also to pass this to people you know to help get the votes needed. The vote costs nothing but a minute of your time. All you have to do is go to this web address:
Once there, just fill out the Vote information and press the vote button. “Crossing the Line” will be, I believe, an important story that will further explain the questions of “why?” on the issue of bullying suicide and weapon violence in our schools.
I thank you in advance for your vote and hope that you agree that this issue is important enough for a book to be published about why it happens and the long-term effects it leads, particularly to families and a community. I look forward to sharing the book with you when it is published. ~Alan Eisenberg