“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Recently, there have been lots of suicides and deaths related to bullying. I remember walking through Target and picking up a magazine and on the cover of a girl who committed suicide over bullying. After staring at the photo I felt so sad for her parents and for the girl herself. I identified with her because I was bullied myself in junior and high school. Hurtful comments from peers take their toll on you and after crying and feeling depressed some teens consider that ending their life is their best option.
One of my worst bully experiences was a guy I liked told me that I was unattractive and that no one would ever like me. Once I was crying and he laughed at me. I didn’t realize this experience stayed with me until I started to realize that the insecurity and inadequacy I feel about my looks stems from that situation.
About a week ago I decided to go on facebook and found a friend that I was friends with when we were younger. She still lives in my hometown so I sent her a friend request. I decided to look at her friends and see if had she friended the guy who had given me problems in high school. She had, in fact, friended him and seeing his face again brought back painful emotions and tears. I then decided to look at his facebook page and discovered he was married and had a little daughter. While looking at his photos I saw more of a smile on his face and a love he had for his daughter.
I remembered something my friends from church and even my Mom told me that he had some problems in high school and was very hurt by something going on his life. She told me that I needed to forgive him and bless him. I think seeing those sweet pictures of him with his daughter opened my heart and caused me to realize that maybe he had changed from the person I knew in high school. After crying about the situation, I finally decided that it was something I needed to do. The weight of that situation has completely left me and I feel better.
I’m not sure if he will ever connect with me on Facebook or even LinkedIn. I don’t know if we will ever cross paths again, but at least in my heart, I can become free and happy.
For anyone being bullied out there, I know what you are going through and I know how difficult it is. Forgiveness is also tough and believe me it was something I didn’t want to do. Once you forgive even if your bully never apologizes you can start moving on and finally being happy and remember that your family, friends, and God loves you just as you are.
This is a repost of a post on Anne’s site at: https://annes126.wordpress.com